Highlights of a weekend to hear about real-life leadership!
- If you like a complete history, read this entire text, even lazily.
- If you want a general understanding, read only the bolded highlights.
- If you want a short version, go to my LinkedIn :).
This theme of real-life leadership sounds like a self-help mix with the Pentecostal church. But today we are all led and lead in some sphere of life.
Be it at home, in the church, communities, businesses and social networks. We are all influencers and therefore leaders at some point.
Even more with the advent of coaches and gurus that we live. I bet you've seen yourself in the situation thatMatthew 15:14describes:
"… They are blind guides guiding the blind. If a blind man leads a blind man, they will both fall into the pit. "
That's why when I heard that the Flávio Augusto (@geracaodevalor) I would be at an event, I did not think twice! I went to check the energy of this fellow I've been following on the internet for 8 years!
Flávio was generous in talking about his personal life and career, always in a light way as a chat between friends.
Impossible not to admire the sweet love story for Luciana, his wife, and how they built the "right" way together. But also the weight in the hard words with those who expect "a savior" for all your problems. On the other hand, lavishing insights that proves that leadership is a necessary skill for everyone. And, sparing no lessons, talking about "indigestible" topics citing examples of his life on every topic.
Here I have brought together lessons that, to me, made sense of a real-life leadership!
1. If you are in a position of influence/leadership, you are responsible for the lives of the people around you.
It does not matter if you have a spotlight or job role. You are responsible and have to know its effect on the people and families around you.
I find it hard to see men talking about family, career and success. Even more knowing how much the corporate and IT market (where I work) can be rotten.
Most people want to shirk responsibility and its effects. Being responsible for the "human side" is grandiose. There are those who preach that no one is responsible for what the other understands, feels or does to justify their "bad character"
Another point that made me think a lot, was a fact that he shares still thinking about families.
2. In Brazil, a family that is now in the poorest 10% of the population, it takes 9 generations to climb to a middle class.
In my family's case, we are in the 3rd generation. Considering that I am still struggling for our daily bread, but, we have left the poverty line there for my 20 years.
The punch in my stomach came in the form of advice:
3. Do not let yourself be overcome by victimization.
Flávio is strict for anyone to expect meritocracy and not sit in the position of victim, see?
Justice and meritocracy do not exist period,he knows the disadvantage of being born poor and says it with all the letters.
He speaks with all the letters that there will NEVER be meritocracy while a trainee goes to work having studied English all his life, easy access to transport to compete with another who does not even want to be fed.
Without the same foundation, opportunities will never be the same! With that thought, he reinforces what he sums up my desire to study EVEN MORE in recent years.
Telling his parents' story, Flavio reinforces that social mobility comes from the study and that today the access to knowledge is a path without return.
"Social mobility only exists with access to study, whether formal or informal (self-taught)."
Bringing it to my reality, I know meritocracy does not exist in real life. I hear at least once a day that there is no justice and the corporate world is like this … I do not get used to it, but I do not sit down to see what happens.
Open quotation marks, for those who do not know me:
I grew up sharing clothes to go to school when my sister was wearing a blouse, I was cold. Vice-versa. Studying without material and hungry. Go to school for the snack, work/fight for the basics every day. I know what it is 3 hours of public transportation to get to work and be humiliated by it.
Even today, as I climbed a bit in the "food chain", meritocracy does not yet exist …
I still have to grate a lot every day to make up for my lack of foundation, study and marks in the curriculum. I'm not going to tell you how difficult it is to be a woman of "strong personality", not being in the pattern of "femininity" expected. Today it is no longer with the hunger that I fight every day, thank God. But I still struggle to have where to live, how to get around and structure my base of the pyramid[de Maslow] That, I'm sure few in my corporate environment live.
4) Success is a personal measure.
Within what Flavio means success, respect is vital. He says it's no use having the respect of coworkers and not your family, vice versa. There is no good professional and bad person, one hour that crosses, his values and character are exposed.
He tells several stories that prove how much respect for people who live near his essence is more important than charge. Even with so much success and money, he says that family respect is still his greatest metric. He talks about not risking this respect and his moral worth bases are critical to a long career and a full happy life.
5) Choose the company and the people you work with.
Allied to this, the importance of having our word always supported in our character and actions. He exemplifies talking about the "re-purchase" of Wiseup just to re-raise the network after the sale to Grupo Abril.
Ah, still about this negotiation he talks a lot about fulfilling our word to those who hurt (even in us).
6) To have an honest word is the difference of a good leader (of yourself and others).
Leaders who have words, conduct business/people in an honest way. Even in a competitive world full of dirt for money, status, and so on.
7) To lead is to be someone who shares knowledge through generosity and impulse of giving.
A person who does not retain what is good for himself is a born leader.
That is why sharing ideas, knowledge and information is a personal motivator. This blog proves it.
8) When no one gives you anything, give yourself!
I try to police myself so I will not be the person who points the finger without looking at my belly button. I believe that the only and best way becoming myself leader is investing in my improvement and doing for me. So that my blindness does not condemn me I remain an eternal apprentice. I value every opportunity to hear who has the most road and has traveled other ways. These are experiences like this lecture that allow me to see a different and often more motivating bias than my daily life.
Just to illustrate when Flávio Augusto, in flesh and blood, talked about swallowing judgment and disbelief, I was represented and I was moved!
Do for me, create my opportunities even without a pat on the back is what I try to do every day and have no other way, 32 years against the statistics!
I can say that on my way to being leader of my life this lecture was a balm of spirits!